Why they dislike you…

Have you ever wondered why some people hate you or dislike you?

I had the hardest time figuring it out honestly people didn’t like me. I tried so hard to be the nice, kind helpful person… nothing seemed to work for some of those “particulars’ For the longest time I thought it was something wrong with me. I tried to look for clues, read up online, tried different approaches, you name it I tried it… still they didn’t like me, and I couldn’t figure out why… But one day I did. It hit me! I figured it out! I would have never guessed that was a reason, I never would never even explore that option to think and to consider. I didn’t even think the reason such reason could exist. Naïve in my never thought that was possible..  I do have ever even thought that this can even be a reason. As I was going through social media, I saw a quote that “You are not everyone’s cup of tea”. I have read quotes and comments similar to this so many times, but this time it hit me different.. It gave me the answer I was searching for.

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I looked back on all I did to figure out this simple truth… I had to do quite a reflection on myself, as I am a person that doesn’t want to hurt anyone, I don’t want people to think bad of me and so forth.. I tried my best to be the kind, caring and helpful person.  But for the life of me I could not figure out why some people just disliked me. And now it all makes sense! While I was trying so hard for them to like me, I was trying to convince them that I was all that I knew I was, good, smart, kind and so forth. But here is it, they are not for me and I am not for them.

Then later that year, I read a lot, I took a lot of personal growth classes that discussed personal traits, relationships, and friendships. More I remembered what I said or did, or acted and reacted there wasn’t anything specific that stood out why some just disliked me. It all started to make sense. They didn’t like me the way I was. It wasn’t the kindness, it wasn’t my gestures, it was because of who I am. I am not to sit in one place for a long time, waiting for pats on the back for a good work done. I am not the one to care about people’s opinion – I am a go getter, I go and get it done. I do what’s right for me and my family. Where most of them are nothing like me.. Nothing.. That’s why they didn’t like me, because next to them I was a powerhouse.

This is nothing to do with one being better than the other, I personally hate the comparison, as we are all so different. We all were raised different, none of us are the same. We may have similarities, but that’s about it!

So if you have people that just dislike you for no reason, keep in mind there is a reason. Whatever reason it is that they feel that way – it is what it is. You are just nothing like them. Keep going forward, keep doing what you are doing, keep being you!

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