Why my life is so complicated?

We all at some point in our lives have asked ourselves questions like, why is everything so complicated? Why do I have so many worries? Why does there have to be so much drama in life? Why are there so many problems? Why can’t things come easier? Why is there always some hurdle to overcome? It seems like everything in life comes with some sort of problem, some stress, requires some effort, and that nothing ever comes easy to us.

Why is life so complicated?

We never really think of life as easy breezy. Why should it be easy? Do we complicate it ourselves? Do we add more stress and problems to our lives? How is that even possible when other people are involved, when there are constant stressors that cause so much discomfort? Why would I intentionally or unintentionally cause myself this much stress? Anyone would ask these questions, right?

Once we go to wherever we’re going and do whatever we decide to do, we then choose who we talk to, who we smile at, who we call, who we meet up with, and so forth. Again, I think it is fair enough to assume that we make these decision ourselves.

As we go about our day we decide what we want to eat, what to buy, where to go next, what we do with our time, and the list goes on and on. What I am trying to say is that from the moment we wake up we do what we decide to do. I am not talking about the idea that we may not like our job or certain people. My point here is that these are the choices you are making, no one is forcing you to do anything you do not want to do.

With that understanding, we choose what we want to do, what we eat, who we see, talk to, and so forth. This means that we make the choices that determine how our day will go. We make the choices on how our week, month, year, and entire life will go. We made a choice when we took our job. We made a choice to settle for what we are doing now. We made a choice on what the future holds for us, although life does have some surprises.

Obviously, there are some unforeseen events that do happen in everyone’s life that we cannot control. But here I am talking more about the everyday choices that we make. So, if we make all these choices every day, this means that we are complicating our lives, not anyone else. If we made a choice to deal with a crazy boss, we made that decision, not our spouse for example. It is as simple as that. We made the choice to commute to a job one hour away, no one else forced us to make that decision.  

If we feel that our life is too complicated, then that means we complicated it ourselves.

Have you ever woken up and just did what you had to do without thinking too much, without worrying too much, without worrying about what anyone else would say, think or do? Have you ever sat down and thought about what you actually want your life to be like? Have you made a plan and are you working on it? If you had made a good solid plan, then you would not be stressed out, worrying all the time, and feeling like your life is so complicated. You would be following your plan. So, here I am going to say it. If you took control of your life, removed all unnecessary troubles and worries, why would your life still be complicated?

Take control over your own life, enjoy every day, you may not wake up tomorrow. You decide what you will do with every minute of your time. Cherish every hour, and don’t complicate your life.